These are the 3-keys to daily well being that will improve your life

These are the 3-keys to daily well being that will improve your lifeThese are the 3-keys to daily well being that will improve your lifeTom Rathis a researcher, author, and filmmaker who studies the role of human behavior in business, health, and well-being. The bestselling author ofAre You Fully Charged?andStrengths Based Leadership,hes also a senior scientist and advisor to Gallup. Since age 16, hes been successfully battlinga rare diseasethat causes krebs cells to appear throughout his body.He joinedSusan Cain,New York Timesbestsellingauthor ofQuiet, for a conversation on the secrets to living ahealthy, happy, and meaningful life.SusanAt only age 39, youve lived a pretty extraordinary life. And youre well known for your natural humility. How do you channel all that quiet modesty into your work?Tom One of the lessons I learned very early in life, from my grandfather, is that it is an extraordinary waste of time to try to be someone you are not. So while I aspire to have a positive influence on other people, I know Im not going to accomplish that by being the loudest or most charismatic person in a room. What I can do is read, learn, and listen as much as humanly possible and channel my findings into something productive. This is the part that comes naturally to me.My challenge is that all the knowledge in the world does little good for others until it is shared in a practical form. This is why I have spent quite a bit of time trying to become a semi-competent writer over the past decade. There is so much amazing research being conducted today that could influence peoples lives. But that knowledge has to meet people at a time of need in order to have any gunst der stunde of influencing a persons daily choices.Susan At age 16, you were diagnosed withVHL disease, a rare genetic disorder that causes cancer cells to appear in various parts of your body. Since that time, youve been researching and experimenting with various ways of slowing down the growth of those tumors. What have your most important findings been?Tom An essential learning for me is that anyone can dramatically improve their odds of living a long and healthy life by making better choices. Just look at the physical aspects. If you get a good nights sleep tonight, it gives you a clean slate for tomorrow, where you are mora likely to be active throughout the day and make better food choices. Perhaps most importantly, this starts an upward spiral, where you feel progressively better as each day goes by.TrendingHow to Want What Youve Got in a World of Infinite ChoiceThe broader learning for me, after battling cancer for a couple of decades, isyou have to do something today that will continue to grow after youre gone. I may have a more constant threat to my mortality than the average person, but in reality the only thing any of us can count on with extreme certainty is that we have today to do what matters most. When I orient my days around this simple thought, it makes it easy to spend even more time doing things for other people each day.SusanWhat do you do when you feel scared or anxious?Tom It helps me to simply acknowledge the fact that I am feeling anxious. In most cases, this keeps my physiological response in check so it does not exacerbate the problem. I think a majority of things we allow to create anxiety in our lives are a reflection of how we choose to respond to external circumstances. Another thing that helps me is focusing on everything thatisgoing right. Simply bringing the thought of my childrens laughter to mind induces a smile almost instantaneously.When I am anxious as a result of larger stressors, I tend to tackle the problem right away. Life is too brief to let fears- that are often unfounded- erode entire days or weeks. Especially for someone like me who needs a lot of thought time, it would be easy to let fears consume far more bandwidth than they should.SusanIn recent years, and especially in your latest bookAre You Fully Charged?, your focus shifted to daily well-being. Why that shift?Tom Looking at what improves well-being in the moment is infinitely more practical. In the past, most research focused on asking people to reflect on their lives overall. That is like inquiring about the quality of someones career by asking them to read their resume. It misses almost all of the richness and emotion that occurs in the thick of a typical day.This is why Ive been deeply encouraged by a lot of smart research around daily well-being or what researchers call daily experience. When you look at what really matters on a moment-to-moment basis, it is things like brief interactions with loved ones that matter significantly more than how much money we make or whether we live in a wealthy country.SusanWhatarethe three keys to daily well-being?TomThe first key isdoing some type of meaningful work today.The second keyis having far more positive than negative interactions.The thirdkey is having the energy you need to be your be st today, which starts with eating, moving, and sleeping well in combination.SusanWhat are the essentials of meaningful work? And can most people, who are already overwhelmed with paying the bills and supporting their families, afford to think in these terms?Tom Its important to note that I am defining meaningful work as doing something that benefits another person. If you think about it in terms that are this basic, even small acts that have a little positive value for society count. In this context, I would argue that meaningful work is more of a basic necessity than a luxury for those who can afford it.Meaningful work is also a lot more practical than I ever thought before I did a deeper dive on this topic. I had always assumed things like meaning, mission, and purpose were higher level needs, but the more I learn, the clearer it becomes that meaningful work is a basic human need that cuts across professions and income levels.SusanYou write about the importance of positive social interactions. What does this mean for introverts, who often prefer their social time in smaller doses, with closer friends, and punctuated by solitude?Tom There is nothing more appealing to this introvert than a combination of solitude and a little time with my closest friends. Perhaps this is why the research around ratios of positive to negative interactions has always resonated with me. The quality of social interactions matters far more than the frequency of those interactions. Based on what I have studied, we need about 80% of our interactions with other people to be more positive than negative. This is simply because negative interactions carry much heavier load and outweigh positive ones.I have also learned to leverage my more analytical and inquisitive personality to create better interactions. It is a lot easier for me as an introvert to ask a good question than it is to initiate a story or other banter. So I ask a lot of questions, listen well, keep my electronic devices stowed away, and learn as much as I can during each interaction. In a world where attention is so incredibly fragmented by voices and devices, I have a feeling that some of these things introverts naturally do better will be even more highly valued in the future.This article originally appeared on Heleo.